What Do Guys Like in a Girl’s Appearance?

So what do guys like in a girl’s appearance? Lovegirl goes under the covers into the world of men, and tells you more about what really turns men on when they see a woman. Find out what men find attractive in women, truthfully!

So what do you think guys like in a girl more than anything else?

On a poll we conducted here at Lovepanky.com, we found a few obvious answers and a few strange answers about what men find attractive in women. Check it out!
We’ve summarized them all up just for your perusal.

What do guys and girls notice on a date?

Now these preferences may reflect what guys notice in girls all the time. But what about on a date? What do guys notice most? And what do girls notice and overlook in a guy? These facts by our experts should help you there.

So what do guys like in a girl, really? 

Do you think they reflect your preference, or do you believe some guys are just wrong in the head? But all said and done, the poll does reflect the preferences of most men, and we’ll just have to live with that.

But ears and nose too, guys, seriously? We’re confused because we just added those for fun! Perhaps, a few people do love ears, or someone other than us does have a sense of humor too when it comes to figuring out what men find attractive in women!

Rounding it all up though, what do guys like in a girl physically? The poll seems to have revealed the obvious.

Men love breasts, butt and legs.

And all three are just too close to name a clear winner though!

So clearly, what do guys like in a girl’s appearance? Perhaps, it’s to each his own. Or perhaps, no one really knows what men find attractive in women. Or just maybe, girls are just so cute as a button that guys like just about everything in a girl!

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How to Get a Girl’s Attention Wherever You Are

Want to know how to get a girl’s attention, be it on the streets or after an introduction? Find out how to get her attention and make her like you.

 

When it comes to getting a girl’s attention, a lot depends on the first impression.

Guys have always been drawn to girls who look good and have a cheerful aura.

But girls aren’t far behind either.

While stunning looks may not be the sole criteria for a girl to like a guy, appearances do play a big part at the beginning.

How to get a girl’s attention

If you’re walking down a street or sitting in a coffee shop, and a girl walks past you, what are the first few things you notice about her?

You’d obviously notice her face, her body, her attire and the way she behaves.
Just like you, girls notice these things too.

It’s instinctive, and considering the fact that all a girl can do initially is notice you, she’s bound to judge you based on her sight, at least at first.

So if you want to know how to get a girl’s attention, you need to make sure you’re making a good impression on her. If you can do that, she’d naturally want to see more of you or get your attention too.

How to get a girl’s attention when you don’t know her

If you like a girl and want her attention but you don’t know her yet, here are eight tips that can help you get her attention, flatter her and rouse her interest in you at the same time.

#1 Be charming. You don’t need to charm her just yet. But be charming in your behavior and the way you speak to everyone else. Know your manners, speak with grace and have a warm personality. This is not something you can build in a day, but once you perfect this, you’ll be able to draw any girl to you without even trying.

#2 Don’t be dominated by anyone else. When you’re spending time out with your friends, do your friends ignore you or treat you badly? When you go out with them, do you feel low on confidence because some other guys make all the decisions? Don’t spend time with these guys.

When you’re dominated by some other guy in your group, you’ll look weaker and the girl who’s attention you’re trying to get may be more interested in your dominant friend than you.

It’s obvious. The best girl will want to be with the best guy in the room. If you’re giving another guy that power by letting him walk all over you, you’ll look like the loser while he’ll appear like the alpha male.

#3 Dress well. What’s one of the first things you notice about a girl? It’s what she’s wearing, isn’t it? Just like that, your attire is one of the first things a girl will notice about you. When you look good, all eyes are bound to turn towards you and there’s a better chance of getting a girl’s attention towards you.

#4 Groom yourself. The art of grooming is the thin line separating the average guy from a great guy. Most guys dress well, but they don’t really look or feel like a million bucks. Grooming is to a man what fine tuning is to a car engine. It’s alright by itself, but a few tweaks can make a serious difference.

Use good perfume that smells great on you when you walk past a girl, use fragrant moisturizers and hair products that make you feel rich no matter where you are. Wear a good watch and accessorize your wardrobe without overdoing it. It’s the little details that always differentiate a classy man from the average joe.

#5 Laugh and smile. Girls are attracted to happy guys. After all, happy guys make great fathers and are more fun. Be cheerful and have a sense of humor. But at the same time, respect yourself and don’t ever let anyone take you for granted. No girl would like a pushover who’s taken lightly by other guys.

#6 Have a good posture. A good posture can add several inches to your height and your confidence. Good posture is a sign of confidence. And girls just love a confident young man! Walk with a naturally straight back and feel powerful from within.

#7 Try to create eye contact. Eye contact can do a lot of great things in a budding romance. It’s the easiest way to get a girl’s attention and yet, play safe without actually walking up to her. If you learn the art of eye contact flirting, you’d be able to make her like you without even saying a word to her!

#8 Find a way to get to know her. As long as you’ve created a perfect first impression on her, she wouldn’t mind exchanging a few glances with you. Look at her now and then, and watch how she behaves. Is she reciprocating your moves? Once you see that she’s responding to your attention, read how to tell if a girl likes you to learn different moves to approach a girl depending on how she behaves around you.

How to get a girl’s attention when you know her already

If you already know the girl you like and want to get her attention, here are four tips you can use to get her attention and make her fall for you.

#1 Compliment her. Good compliments are the way to a girl’s heart. Girls never forget a genuine and appreciative compliment. If you want a girl to think of you, tell her something nice but lace it with a sexual remark.

#2 Be chivalrous around her. Behave like a real man around her. Be dependable and make her feel protected around you. When a girl feels safe around you, she’ll love spending time with you. Just a word of caution, don’t get into her friend zone by accepting all her demands or behaving like a doormat around her. Always respect yourself.

#3 Make her laugh. Build your sense of humor by having a cheerful approach towards life. You don’t have to behave like a clown though. Just be yourself and bring humor out of circumstances around you.

#4 Make her like you without asking her out. If the vibes are right, don’t ask her out or propose your love for her just yet. When you ask a girl to go out with you, you’re putting her in a spot. And once you pop the question, there is no turning back. If she’s not ready to date you for some reason, she may even end up avoiding you or feeling awkward around you. Instead, focus on making her fall in love with you first.

Once you understand what really matters when it comes to making a great impression, knowing how to get a girl’s attention wherever you are will come naturally, just as long as you remember these tips.

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Cheating in a Relationship

Can you really define cheating in a relationship? As complex as the feeling of love may be, affairs and cheating in a relationship are just as complicated, says Roberto Rossi. But who defines cheating, and what constitutes cheating in a relationship?

 

Cheating in a relationship is funny business. Painful, most definitely, but it’s extremely hilarious to watch from a third person’s view.

Have you seen how relationships change with time?

And have you noticed how we twist our own promises to our lovers to suit our needs as time passes by?

You kissed someone else because you assumed your partner was cheating? Or did you sleep with another person because your partner just wasn’t showing you any affection?

Is that cheating, or is that just changing with the circumstances?

Cheating in a relationship

More often than not, things can sometimes be lost in translation when it comes to your relationship with a loved one. Without clear boundaries set, it’s even more likely that relationships won’t last past the initial honeymoon period.

It seems nowadays you can’t even fart or sneeze without your loved one having opinions about it. Why is this happening?

Only god knows, but as couples become more and more immersed into each other’s daily lives, problems seem to be occurring left, right and centre!

Just think about it for a moment. Have you been in a situation where the doubt of infidelity has been so small and so insignificant, but in the end you ended up having a row with your partner and probably took a few days to resolve it while the dust settled?

Have you been in that situation when in looking at what is positive in the relationship, you instead focus on the negative? There’s always a light at the end of the tunnel, but it’s up to you to find the torch that can take you there.

Cheating and our own views

Cheating in a relationship can be a confusing affair. Recently, a friend of mine came to me with a dilemma. His girlfriend had left him because he often sent text messages to a female colleague from his workplace.

This girl from work would call him occasionally to talk, to gossip, etc. His girlfriend came to him concerned, and even after he had comforted her over a few glasses of Portuguese Rose, she came right back at him with the sucker punch, “but you always see her at work, why do you need to talk to her even when you’re home?”

His response was somber, and there wasn’t much he could have said back, other than “she’s a friend who likes to talk, what’s wrong with that?” Of course, some level of flirtation probably took place, but let’s be big boys and girls here, who doesn’t flirt in life?

Infidelity creates its own circumstances

As a few months went by, a one-off, random office drinks party ended with my friend and his workmate sharing a kiss. Of course, my tone changed. But in the end, I felt this couple had a lot more going for them then, to allow a stupid kiss to get in the way.

Three years together, and a stupid kiss could ruin all of that? Who hasn’t done something stupid which they come to regret, or rather forget? But this is it. When he felt guilty about it and told his girlfriend about the kiss, she was obviously pissed off. But she went one step further. She told him she always knew there was something going on between them.

Fair enough, I thought. She was well entitled to believe that something could come from this because they had locked lips.

But it was her failure to reflect on their relationship to understand that such a scenario was always a miniscule event in a wider picture. She assumed that that one kiss had started an entire illicit relationship between her man and the woman from work, and she just wasn’t ready to accept that perhaps, just maybe, it was an unfortunate event that happened by accident. It could happen to any of us.

Becoming the unfaithful one

Anyone can fall prey to such accidents, given the circumstances and chances of timing. No one’s a saint and no one’s a sinner if you really weigh the circumstances.

But as the American actor Henry Winkler once said, “assumptions are the termites of relationships.” They eat at you and your partner, and in the end, just like a termite loves to grind down on wood, the termite assumption eats at the tree you and your partner have grown together.

When is it cheating?

In today’s world, it seems that everything shared between a partner and a friend of the opposite gender is cheating. Absurd, right? Wrong.

You will be surprised at the amount of cases where relationships have ended over the most miniscule of things. With respect to sexual infidelity, cheating is only cheating if, ladies, you happen to walk into your room to find some butt naked chicka playing with your fella’s nuts (and I’m not talking about food here).
Alternatively, cheating is only cheating if men, you happen to find your lady with her panties in a twist with another man. Well, unless you’re talking about emotional affairs.

Anything is remotely possible today. Think back about my friend, his example is exactly what is killing the average American relationship of a twenty or thirty something year old. We, as humans, are drawn in by our assumptions of situations without allowing ourselves to reflect on the positives. Sounds familiar?

But I hear you saying out loud ‘what could be positive from my partner kissing someone else?’

Well firstly, it’s not as if they slept with them. They didn’t share a night of passion that they would normally have shared with you. Secondly, if you know about it, either they have told you themselves or you’ve found out yourself, but that doesn’t mean they are going to do it again.

If they do, then, of course it’s cheating in a relationship. But what if it happened in the heat of the moment, a onetime thing? It really could happen to any of us!

Defining cheating in love

The definition of cheating in a relationship is changing with the times. Most relationships end when either one of the individuals involved does the unthinkable. They cheat.

In the U.S. alone, one in three marriages now ends in divorce, and a lot is put down to infidelity issues. In a recent national survey, twenty two percent of married men have strayed at least once during their married lives, while fourteen percent of married women have had affairs at least once during their married lives. And that’s the number of people that confessed to their deed! Can you even begin to think of the number of secret affairs going on right this minute?

During the 1950’s and 1960’s, cheating was seen as a pass-time. Both genders could openly do more things and people, but today is different.

With the techno-advanced twenty first century, all forms of communication are a blessing to us. We text, email, have mobiles, and interact much more. Socially, we are freer in more ways than ever before, but in trying to be a free spirit like a character out of a Paulo Coelho book, we cause ourselves harm too. The more we interact, the more problems we get into, and more temptations we come across.

So what is cheating?

When one talks about cheating in a relationship, some may think of a lover banging someone else. But as I said, times have changed. Flirting, kissing, cyber-sex, text-sex, email-sex, facebook-sex, even looking at the opposite sex is considering cheating! Forgive me, maybe I just won’t look at beauty the next time it passes me by.

Seriously though, because people have different opinions about what’s considered cheating, it’s up to you and your partner to decide what the “ground rules” are for the relationship.

What constitutes an act of infidelity varies between and within cultures and depends also on the type of relationship that exists between people. Even within an open relationship, infidelity may arise if a partner in the relationship acts outside of the understood boundaries of the relationship.

Many people agree that there are six basic qualities to healthy, loving relationships. Respect, trust, honesty, fairness, equality, and good communication. Everyone is different when it comes to dating rules, so people should sit down with their partners and agree on what counts as cheating in their relationships.

Discussing these details, however uncomfortable they may seem, is actually the best way to create boundaries in love and avoid cheating in a relationship.

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11 Profound Relationship Quotes Anyone Can Relate To

Looking for the perfect quote to summarize your current relationship predicament? Here are 11 of the most profound ones that are sure to inspire you! 

 

Sometimes, the bad can overshadow all the good there is in your relationship, and all you can seem to think about is how unhappy you are with your partner.

This is especially true if something big happens to you such as infidelity, a problem that’s slowly getting out of hand or major life changes. As morose as this may sound, try to remember that as bad as things are now, they can always get worse.

Do remember, however, that they can also become better with the right mindset and a whole lot of effort. The effort is your share of work. As for the mindset, we’ve got a couple of interesting and enlightening quotes that may help you regain a mental foothold on what to do with your relationship.

Relationship quotes to help you through a rough patch

Forget about trawling the internet for tips on how to be happy in your love life. The relationship quotes below will be enough to get you through even the darkest of hours.

Nothing is impossible if you set your mind to it, after all. With the help of these 11 bits of advice that are fashioned into quotes, you may just be able to find your way into the light sooner than you think.

#1 “Choose to be happy.” -Anonymous

Like everything else in life, happiness is a choice. No matter how down in the dumps you are, you can always look at the bright side to see that things aren’t as bad as you think. There is happiness and joy in your relationship, if you look hard enough. And once you see it, you may learn that this little spark of joy is worth fighting for.

#2 “Be the hero in your story.” -Anonymous

It’s your life and you should play the starring role. Once you realize that you are the hero in your own story, you will be empowered to be the best version of yourself. With this comes confidence, and with confidence comes respect for yourself. As with heroes you see in movies, you can overcome just about any obstacle in your own way, particularly those you’re facing in your relationship. Go forth and thrive!

#3 “People change, but they don’t change much.” -Anonymous

Remember this quote when you are in a tough spot trying to decide if you should stay in your relationship or leave. For example, you may have an abusive husband who promises repeatedly that he will change and never hit you again. The same goes to your wife who was caught cheating more than once.
Always remember that people are capable of change, but only up to a certain point. As kind as it is to give your loved one yet another chance, think twice before doing so.

#4 “The quality of your life is the quality of your relationships.” -Anthony Robbins

When you are happy and healthy, your relationships will thrive. Expel toxic people from your life, eat healthy and add exercise into your daily schedule. When your body looks and feels good, so will your mind. Once your mind is happy, you will find that the quality of your relationships, not just with your spouse, but with everyone around you, will significantly improve.

#5 “Someone to tell it to is one of the fundamental needs of human beings.” -Miles Franklin

This quote should resonate with those who believe in the importance of maintaining a healthy and communicative relationship with their partners. Being able to communicate with one another is supremely important, if you want to make your love life work.

Whether it’s happy or sad news, don’t bottle everything up inside, as the weight will take its toll on you. When you are able to communicate freely with your partner, your relationship will develop into something far more meaningful than one built on just lust and passion.

#6 “Once you figure out the why, you can tolerate any how.” -Jillian Michaels

Although this quote was made to motivate people to lose weight, there is no denying that it can be applied to multiple facets of your relationship. Whether you’re with someone for the companionship or you’re staying strong to make a long distance relationship work, figuring out why you want to stay is the first step towards overall improvement. The human mind is a wonderful tool and the thoughts that you have can be channeled towards make you a stronger, happier and more successful individual.

#7 “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” -Eleanor Roosevelt

If you’re stuck in an unhappy relationship, think of this quote. Never let anyone, especially your significant other, bring you down. The only reason you’re being brought down is because you allow yourself to stay with a person who treats you that way. When you find it within yourself to resist the pressure they put down on you, you can stand up for yourself and find the strength to walk away.

#8 “Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” -Mahatma Gandhi

Whether it’s something as menial as your husband leaving the toilet seat up or something heavy like your wife having a slip up with her boss, you have to learn to forgive. Forgive your spouse for the small stuff, and forget about the whole ordeal, because at the end of the day, life is too short to be spent brooding over the little things.

However, forgiveness does not mean letting the heavy stuff go and pretending like they never happened. It just means that you need to rise above it all, work through it and be strong enough to do the right thing.

#9 “Intense love does not measure, it just gives.” -Mother Teresa

When you love someone, there has to be a whole lot of giving. Give your time, love and loyalty only to those who are worthy. No matter what, always remember that being in a relationship is a two way street, and that your spouse should be living by this mantra as well. If you are the only one taking this quote to heart, then maybe you should start considering finding someone who can reciprocate.

#10 “Assumptions are the termites of relationships” -Henry Winkler

Assuming something before confirming it only serves to make you jump to conclusions. When you’ve preemptively put a thought in your head, it can be nigh on impossible to get it out. Whether that assumption is a wayward spouse or an unhappy partner, the conclusion you’ve jumped to can eat away both at your mind and your relationship. Always confirm before you make assumptions, because those assumptions have a nasty habit of turning into accusations.

#11 “We cannot really love anyone with whom we never laugh” -Agnes Repplier

This quote should remind you to always have fun with the one you’re with. Being able to laugh and share joy with your spouse is perhaps one of the most important parts of making a marriage work. When the money, the looks, the prestige and all those things are gone, you can always fall back on the joy and laughter you find in each other.

Quotes are a great way to remember important life lessons in the way of eloquent words. The next time you feel like you need some sagely relationship wisdom from those who have a penchant for inspiring prose, these quotes will be able to help you through your predicament.

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5 Signs You’re Addicted and 15 Ways to Get Over Porn!

Having trouble with your porn addiction? Use these 15 tips on how to stop watching porn and get your life back in order by dealing with the addiction. 

 

Do you hate the amount of time you spend watching porn every day?
Watching porn isn’t wrong if you’re old enough.

And it’s nothing to be ashamed of.
But if you feel like it’s taking away a lot of your time and you’re left frustrated as soon as you finish the deed, here’s what you need to do to get your furious hands under control and wean yourself off the habit over time.

How to stop watching porn

Most of us have had our own ways to deal with this issue at some point in our lives.
While it’s easy to wean the habit away for most guys, a few guys may have a harder time dealing with porn and boredom than other guys.

If you feel like you have a problem with the porn addiction, use these 15 tips on how to stop watching porn all the time. It’ll definitely help you.

#1 Try to finish yourself off as soon as possible. The biggest drain of being addicted to porn is the amount of time it sucks out of your life. Porn can be fascinating and you’ll never realize how fast time flies. Instead of avoiding watching porn completely, learn to finish yourself off quickly.

#2 Limit your videos. Give yourself a set number of porn videos to watch per day before you shut your device for the night. Don’t exceed the number of videos though. Finish yourself off even if you don’t like what you’re watching.

#3 Keep yourself busy. Don’t be idle. It’s the easiest way to avoid spending too much time watching porn.

#4 Get a girlfriend. This is a cliché because several men who are happily married too are addicted to porn. Get a girlfriend or try to divert your porn interest to your partner.

#5 Watch so much that you get sick of it. Beat yourself off so many times over a weekend that you feel sick and tired of it. It may not work all the time, but at times, overindulgence can actually help you beat the habit.

#6 You need a distraction. Every time you feel like masturbating, do something else you like that involves your attention.

#7 Have sex and watch porn at the same time. If you have a partner and are still having a hard time dealing with the porn addiction, watch it together with your partner and have sex at the same time. It’ll help you have a better sex life and beat the addiction at the same time.

#8 Play games on your console instead. Guys love playing games. It keeps you involved and distracted at the same time. And with the adrenalin buzz of a good game, you may end up feeling tired after an involving game and have little energy left in your hands.

#9 Don’t spend too much time alone. Lonely time is fun time for a guy who watches too much porn. Avoid isolating yourself in your room. Meet your friends, or step out of the house for a while when you feel like watching porn.

#10 Time yourself. If you’re frustrated by the amount of time you lose every day on porn, learn to time yourself. Give yourself 15 to 20 minutes for the first few days and reduce that time to a few minutes after that. You’ll save time and experience less sexual satisfaction through porn.

#11 Masturbate to a few boring videos. You enjoy porn because it feels good. If the excitement that you’re building up starts to wear off, so will your addiction.

#12 Restrict yourself to one porn website per week. By the end of the week, if you’re a quick porn surfer looking for the best of sex, you’ll run out of good videos that you enjoy in a week.

#13 Avoid your favorite obsessions. Do you like drunk sex, violation, fetishes, moresomes, lesbians, etc. Go for the typical one on one. It’ll be mildly exciting and eventually, you’ll get bored of watching the same routine all the time.

#14 Limit the hands in the pants. Limit your whacking off to once a day, or a maximum of twice a day. Do it in the morning and at night. You can take porn off your mind for the rest of your day. Slowly wean yourself off and reduce it to just once a day by distracting yourself eventually. If your little man can’t stand up because he’s done for the day already, you can learn to ignore him.

#15 It’s just a phase. It’ll pass. We’ve all been there. Especially if you’re a teenager, it’s not easy to control that thing in your pants. Try to avoid it, but don’t be ashamed or hate yourself for it. Unless you’ve been having issues with this problem for more than a few years, just use these steps. It’ll definitely work for you as long as you’re determined.

Signs you’re watching too much porn

So how do you know you’re watching too much porn in the first place? Here are five signs you need to watch out for. After all, denial is never a good enough excuse.

#1 You don’t have time for anything else. If you spend every minute alone in front of a computer watching porn, there’s a good chance you’re addicted to it.

#2 If you’re frustrated as soon as you come to your senses. You may enjoy your dingdong in your hands on against your mattress while you’re watching porn. But as soon as you’re done, do you feel frustrated or hate yourself for doing it? Perhaps it’s time to restrict the habit.

#3 If you feel helpless all the time. You don’t have a choice. You just love porn and are addicted to it. You miss porn more than anything else, and your hands itch to type a few adult websites in your browser when no one’s around.

#4 You can’t wait to get some alone time. You love spending time by yourself so you can jack off. While most people hate being alone for too long, you can’t wait to get some alone time with your porn collection.

#5 You spend more than an hour a day watching porn. Men and women watch porn, but they do it within limitations. Do you spend several hours a day watching sexy things on your computer? Chances are, you’re either a porn addict or are on the verge of becoming one.

If you want to wean yourself off the porn addiction and want to know how to stop watching porn, just use these 15 tips. With a bit of determination, you would be able to end the habit in a few weeks.

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10 Obvious Hints Guys Give When They Want More Space

Though he may not say it outright, a man’s actions can indicate that he needs some time away from you. Here are 10 signs that this is the case.

Most serious relationships will need a break every so often. And by break, I mean some serious soul-searching time apart like sleeping in separate rooms, taking a solo trip abroad, or moving out completely.

Many people look at this as the worst thing that could possibly happen to a couple. On the contrary, you should look at this as a way for both parties to gain some perspective and re-center yourselves.

There is nothing wrong with taking a breather. Spending some time apart will give you time to focus on what is important, while allowing you to miss each other again. Rekindling the flames of passion is just as important to a relationship as it is to be in each other’s faces all the time. More often than not, it is the man who initiates the need to spend some time apart.

Needing space does not necessarily mean that he’s cheating. It could simply mean that he needs some time off to think about stuff. Perhaps the relationship is moving too quickly for him. Perhaps he is under a lot of pressure from work. Perhaps he has unresolved family drama that needs his attention. Perhaps he just wants to zone out and catch up on video games.

How can you know if your man want some space?

Whatever his reasons are for wanting some space away from you, you need to respect his wishes if you want to keep him. No woman wants to initiate the space-giving conversation, and it is completely normal to not pay any attention to the signs that he gives off. Try not to make that mistake and just listen to what he says and does. If you have no idea what to look out for, here are 10 hints that he needs more space.

#1 He falls off the grid. Once a man falls off the grid, you know that he needs time away from you. Whether it’s not picking up your calls or ignoring your text messages, no communication is the clearest hint that you could get. This usually happens when men feel trapped.

Men can be pussies in the sense that they would rather disappear than confront you head on. This disappearing act of his may mean that he wants to leave for good, so how you react to this will greatly determine whether he stays or goes.

If you throw a hissy fit and come down hard on him, you make his decision that much easier. Try to practice understanding and empathy if this happens, and he will realize what a catch you are. Use this time away from each other to reflect on your relationship or to have some “me time.”

#2 He makes his own plans. Once your guy starts making his own plans and doesn’t confer with you, take it as a clear sign that he needs some space. When couples are in a happy and healthy relationship, there is usually no question about what is going to happen over the weekend.

It is a given that you are going to spend time together, whether it’s zoning out on the couch or heading off to the beach. When he makes his own plans, don’t go on a stalking rampage, because that’s just going to push him further away from you.

#3 He feeds you bullshit. Not literally. But like a mushroom, he feeds you shit and keeps you in the dark. Many men resort to this tactic to get their way. Whether it is lying to you and saying that he has to spend time with his mother who is visiting or that he has a ton of work to do and cannot meet up with you for the next few weeks, it is not uncommon for men to lie.

Many men do this just so they don’t have to explain the why, where, when and how to you. It is simpler to feed you a bunch of lies than to handle all your questions. If you find out that he lied to you, confront him but give him the space that he asks for. The last thing you want to do is give him a rough time right before he’s scheduled to spend time away from you.

#4 He mentions taking a break. Once your guy starts talking about the possibility of taking a break from the relationship, he is already at his wits ends and really needs space away from you. Although most men would rather resort to falling off the grid or lying to you, so that he does not have to deal with all the questions, others may just nip the problem in the bud and ask for an official break from the relationship.

Don’t panic if this happens. It doesn’t necessarily mean that he wants to leave you, it could just mean that he is feeling overwhelmed and needs a time out. Give him some time off on the condition that he schedules a sit-down talk with you once he has had some time alone.

#5 You argue more. Once you start getting on each other’s nerves, it all goes downhill from there. If you find that you are fighting a lot more than usual, it is probably a good idea to step back. This does not mean giving into his whims of wanting to take time off from you. It simply means that you are giving your relationship the time that it needs to heal.

Giving each other some space will be great, not just for him but for you as well. Don’t stave off the importance of spending some time apart. Give yourselves the opportunity to miss one another and things will be much better when you finally decide to step back in.

#6 He’s never available. Once you find that your man is becoming less and less available, be it emotionally, physically or both, it is a clear hint that he wants his space. Not spending time with you is the simplest and most straightforward way to tell you that he would rather spend his time doing something else.

Maybe the relationship is getting too much for him to handle. Perhaps he has other things on his mind that should not concern you. Either way, leave him to his own devices to get himself together.

#7 He cancels on you way too much. Whether it is delaying that eagerly anticipated trip to the museum together or canceling on date night yet again, you can be sure that he does not want to spend time with you. It doesn’t mean he doesn’t care about you. It could simply mean that he needs some personal time.

Spending time apart is not the worst thing ever as it will give you the chance to do things with your girlfriends, family or focus on yourself. That is probably just what he needs as well, so just let it be and don’t make too big a deal out of it. Ask him upfront if he needs space and if he says yes, give in to him.

#8 He never initiates plans. Similar to him being unavailable, you can tell that your guy needs space when he doesn’t make the attempt to initiate plans with you. This change should be amplified even more, if he was always the one who took the lead to plan your dates. Don’t take this the wrong way. It’s just his simple way of saying that there are other things that he would like to do without you.

#9 You can feel the emotional distance. Whether you have been together long term or not, you should be able to tell when your man is feeling emotionally distant. You will sense that something is wrong, that he talks less, initiates sex less often and overall seems more impersonal. Some men just tend to shut down when they want something, but they don’t know how to ask for it. If this is the case, it may be better if you broach the subject with him first.

#10 He becomes unsettlingly honest. Some men will resort to pure honesty when they have exhausted all other options. Maybe you just couldn’t take the hint or he simply doesn’t have time to play games. In any case, you should be grateful if your man has the courage to tell you straight up that he needs more space. Commend him for it, and just let him have what he wants.

Needing space doesn’t necessarily mean he doesn’t want to be with you. He just doesn’t want to be around you at that moment. Afterwards, he can address how he truly feels about the relationship. If he wants to go, at least he was honest. If he wants to stay, then you can truly say that absence made his heart grow fonder.

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11 Ways to Know if Both of You are Ready to Have a Baby!

Are you ready to start a family? Parenthood isn’t easy, but when you know you’re ready to have a baby, you just know! Find out using these 11 signs.

 

Deciding to start a family is probably one of the biggest decisions you will make in your life.

We ask ourselves so many questions. Will we be good parents? Can we afford it? How will our life change? These anxieties are completely normal and are to be expected. And, of course, your life will change!

You will both be in charge of another human being who will demand your attention, your time and your energy. For the first few months, it will be smelly nappies, bottles, sick and sleepless nights, but hey, that’s the fun part!

11 signs to know if both of you are ready to start a family

So how can you really tell if you’re both ready to be parents? Take a look at some of these clues and find out if it’s time for you to take a leap into the scary, rewarding, intense roller coaster ride known as parenthood.

#1 Both of you decide to get a pet

Seriously, this is one of the first indicators that you are ready to become responsible for another life. You already live together and enjoyed the first year *or years* of having sex in any room, throwing parties, buying nice things and now, these things no longer seem quite so important anymore, so you buy a pet.

It feels right to care for something else. It’s that old adage that we call ‘nesting.’ It is the first step to finding out what it means to care for another life and take responsibility. Provided your cat/hamster/goldfish/dog didn’t die of neglect *this could be a surefire sign you aren’t quite ready!* having a pet can be a good suggestion to know you’re ready to move on to the next step of becoming parents.

#2 You have both hinted at the idea to each other

If you have had a conversation that included the phrase ‘I wonder what it might be like to have a baby?’ and had a reply that went along the lines of ‘I don’t know, I’ve thought about it myself,’ you are both on the right tracks.

Perhaps, the conversation went something like this – ‘I would like to have children someday,’ and you had a ‘yeah, me as well’ back. Then it progressed to ‘When we are ready, of course,’ and the answer was ‘yeah, when we are ready.’

But the clincher here is the looks that might have taken place between the both of you. You felt that your other half was hinting at being ready and you wanted to say that you might also be ready. If you have both had a conversation or shared meaningful looks along these lines, it might be time for both of you to just come right out and say what you are really thinking.

#3 You start staring at pregnant women

Whether you are male or female, when our subconscious starts to think about parenthood, we become naturally drawn to the wonders of pregnancy and pregnant women. We start to imagine what it would be like to wait on tenterhooks for that precious cargo to arrive.

A woman might question how it feels to be pregnant, and a man might start to think what it would be like to have gotten their partner pregnant. If you feel your eyes drawn to pregnant women and thoughts fill your head about being pregnant, fathering a child, being parents and bouncing babies, then it might be Mother Nature trying to tell you something!

#4 Both of you enjoy spending time with children.

If the two of you enjoy spending time with your niece/nephew/young cousin/children, then this is the biggest clue that you might be ready to start your own family. Both of you enjoy spending time with children together. Children can really enhance our lives, and if you and your partner both enjoy having children around, taking them out as a couple and neither of you get too upset if you get covered in ice-cream or chocolate, then it means you might be ready to have your own kids.

Other things to bear in mind when you are around children is to take note if either of you freak out if something gets accidently broken. You are allowed to be annoyed, of course, but not have a breakdown if your niece decided to place a coin inside your Blu-ray player, for example, or she thought your cream carpet would look better covered in orange squash.

Being a parent means accepting that children don’t follow our rules at first until they are taught them, but if you are both laidback when children are around you or in your house, then this is a big thumbs up indicator that both of you might be ready to start a family.

#5 You have both stopped to look at babies in a pram when out together

Babies can make the most hardened of us go gooey when we see them. There is something about a gurgling, smiling baby who smells of baby powder looking at us with innocent eyes. But if you both want to look inside every pram you see when you are together, it could be your connection to each other that is telling you both that a baby is the next step.

However, if it’s only one of you who is cooing and your partner would rather stare at an ant on the floor than pull funny faces at a baby, this could indicate that now is not quite the right time for you both to start a family.

#6 You both actually enjoy quiet nights in

Okay, enjoying quiet nights in does not necessarily mean you should rush out and buy an ovulation kit tomorrow, but we do tend to get to a time in our lives when going out all the time is no longer so appealing. So if you are both happy to spend a Saturday night at home watching a movie, or just enjoying a bottle of wine together, you are on the right track. This can be an indicator that you now have different priorities in your lives and are ‘settling down.’

Having a baby will really impact on your social life. In fact, for the first few months your only social life consists of visits to the health clinic, parenting groups and briefly seeing your friends who pop in to tell you what great parties you are missing out on. However, if your Saturday nights are made up of partying and hangovers on a Sunday morning, you might not quite be ready to give all that up yet.

#7 You have both started saving

Normally, we try to save for a goal such as a new home, a wedding or a great holiday, but if you are both saving at the moment and don’t have an actual intention of spending the money on anything specific, it might be an indication that you are creating a ‘nest egg’ for your future family.

Kids cost a fortune, there is no doubt about it. From the Moses basket, to the cot and to the pram, it’s not cheap preparing for a new bundle of joy. So if you have found that you are both saving and have not really discussed exactly what you are saving for, perhaps you are both thinking of what might be around the corner and that could mean having a baby!

#8 You both have more patience than you did a few years ago

Patience. It’s something that we are not all blessed with naturally, and we have to work hard to develop patience. But are you both more patient than you were a few years back? Patience does seem to get easier with maturity and trust us, you will need patience in abundance if you decide to have a baby.

Your gurgling package will not care if you have to get up at 7am for work. If she wants to feed at 3am, then she will let you both know. Loudly. Having patience with a newborn *and all children* is a must and of course, you must have patience with each other. Mummy will be tired from looking after the baby all day and Daddy will be tired from working and not having much sleep *or vice versa, of course!* and so you will have to be patient with each other as well.

If you are both quite patient people, or you know you have become more patient over the last few years, you may both be ready to take that step into parenthood.

#9 You have already traded in your sporty car for a ‘saloon’

It’s amazing that your choice of car can be an indication if you are ready to become parents, but believe it or not, it is. As a couple, it doesn’t matter if you drive around in a sports car as passengers are not a consideration, but if you have recently bought a new car, or traded in an existing one, and you are now the proud owner of a family saloon, it might be a sign that you have both taken into account that you may have a child seat or two on the back seat in the very near future.

#10 You have both already taken ‘risks’

Right, we get it, we all take risks sometimes when having sex. Women can forget to take the pill or you both might get carried away and not bother using a condom in the heat of the moment.

But, if this has become a regular occurrence and not just a few one-offs, perhaps you are both telling each other that you don’t mind if a baby happens along? It could even be the case that you have both said ‘to hell with it’ after one of you has mentioned the lack of protection and the consequences, and if this has happened, it could be time for both of you to just come out and ask each other, ‘are we ready to have a baby?’

#11 You have had a few ‘false alarms’ together and felt disappointed

Everybody questions the ‘what if’ when we think something might be happening, and then find out it’s actually not. If you and your partner have had a false alarm when you believed you might have a baby on the way and then found out it was only a false alarm, how did you both feel? Were you both disappointed?

If yes, this is a really big signal that you are ready to start a family, especially if your first few feelings was excitement and joy. On the other hand, if you were both mortified and went out to the pub to celebrate when you found out it was a false alarm, this might be an indication that parenthood is not right for you just now.

So are you ready to have a baby?

If you both identify with a few of the pointers above, it could be that now is the right time for you to take that step and become parents. But deciding to become a parent doesn’t need to be that scary, as long as you are both open and honest with each other.

All new parents have doubts and worry about the future. Doubts are normal and parenthood is a personal decision that only couples can decide between themselves. Whatever you both decide together will be the right choice and there is no pressure to become parents until you both feel you are ready.

So if you think both of you are ready for a family, go for it, and if you’re still apprehensive, wait a while until the thought excites both of you. But until the time is right, relax and enjoy each other and every moment along the way!

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How to Start a Conversation with a Girl

How to talk to a girl for the first time, without making it look like you’re hitting on her? It’s easy to learn how to start a conversation with a girl as long as you know the basic steps. Find out here.

Before you figure how to start a conversation with a girl, click here to read the introduction on how to attract women because quite frankly, there’s just no great conversations without the spark of attraction!
How to start a conversation with a girl?

Many men have tried and tried really hard. And most of those men have failed miserably.
Starting a conversation with a girl is not really as hard as most men claim it to be.

It’s simple and can be a lot of fun if you really understand the basic ground rule. Women are not monsters. And men don’t really need to fear them.

Women like men just as much as men like women.

After all, in most normal circumstances, opposite sexes do attract each other. And it’s always flattering when someone of the opposite sex starts a conversation with you, isn’t it?

Do you ever wonder how to start a conversation with a girl?

What do you think about? A cool pick up line, or maybe a very confident walk up followed by some smooth talking? Well, it could work.

But in most cases, those moves fail. And they fail miserably.

Really then, how to start a conversation with a girl?

Here’s the simple part. Women are tired of being “picked up” all the time. If you’re talking about a gorgeous woman who’d have men trailing her all the time, she’d probably hate pick up lines and smooth talkers. Smooth talking is good, but it’s never a good way to start a conversation.

How would you start a conversation with a man? With a simple “hello” or a “hi”, right?
Think along the same lines when you talk to a girl. Don’t try to pick up a girl, try to start a conversation with a girl instead. And she’ll appreciate it.

When is it a good time to make a move?

One of the best ways to have a successful conversation with a girl, is by not surprising her all of a sudden. Many men make the mistake of walking straight up to a girl and saying something to her. In such cases, the girl may be so startled that she may instinctively turn you down without even getting a second to think about you as a person.

You wouldn’t want that, would you?

The sudden pick up may work now and then, but there are always safer and more easier methods if you want to know how to start a conversation with a woman.

Let her know you exist. Look at her now and then, warm her up to the act, and let her know that you intend to walk up and say hello to her, eventually.

That way, if she reciprocates your stares, she’s anticipating you and wondering when you’re going to walk up and say hello! This would actually build up the excitement and make her wait for you instead. See, this can actually work a lot better because you’re creating an interest before starting a conversation.

And because of that, this is one of the best ways to start a conversation with a girl.

Scenarios on starting a conversation with a girl

Now that you know the basic rules on how to start a conversation with a girl and how to warm her up even before talking, let’s take a look at a few common scenarios and strategies you can use when you may bump into a beautiful girl.

Conversation Strategy: Gentleman in distress

Even big, strong men like you would have their tough times, where you would have to play the “gentleman in distress” part. For instance, let’s assume you want to know how to start a conversation with a girl at the supermarket.

You’re at a supermarket  and you have no idea where to pick up all the ingredients to make a chicken stroganoff. What do you do now?

Scenario 1: Ditch that idea. What were you thinking anyways? Don’t you have pizzas and beer in the freezer?!!

Scenario 2: Start a conversation with a girl shopping in the store, and ask the pretty girl to help you out with your shopping.

I hope you picked Scenario 2. You know why, because the pizzas and the beer can’t get any worse. Your raging hormones on the other hand can.

Anyways, believe it or not, the shopping girl would love to help you shop, and she would also love to give you her secret recipe to make it taste even better. This is true unless she’s wearing a T-Shirt that says “My cooking sucks, but thankfully so do I”, in which case you’ve struck gold anyways.

You could even ask her to help you cook the meal and join you for lunch, and whatever that follows.
There’s always something that gives a girl a good feeling about a man who accepts that he is terrible in doing something and needs her help… maybe it’s his helplessness that draws her. Or maybe she’s just into male-bashing.

But in all cases, women love to mould men. So if you look helpless and lost, she’s want to help you even more.

The next time you go shopping for clothes alone, make it a point to ask the pretty maiden shopping by herself (if you ever find one shopping by herself!) if the shirt you just tried looks good on you. Be sincere and try not to look like a prick with a wide toothy grin when you ask her that.

Remember, you’re trying to start a conversation with a girl here. So be warm and absolutely genuine. Chances are she may even help you pick a nice tee for yourself (so what if it was a two grand designer sweatshirt at the end of the month). And you could always ask her out for a coffee so you can thank her for helping you.

How to start a conversation with a girl the nice way!

The world is full of opportunities to meet wonderful women, and start a beautiful relationship with them. It is said that opportunity knocks only once, but if you want to, you can find endless ways to create perfect opportunities for yourself.

The most important fact that you should understand is this. You would be most successful in meeting girls if you behave like “you”. Don’t try to pretend to be someone else, the girl would definitely know that you’re faking it, either in the very first minute or by the fifth, which does not help you in any way.

A girl is attracted to your personality more than anything else (a theory made by ugly men, which does seem true by the way). If you seem confident and charming and approach the woman in a very pleasant manner, she would be pleased to have met someone who has the courtesy to appreciate her company.

So, what are you waiting for, sugar? Go on… you know how to start a conversation with a girl, so go on and talk your way into that cute girl’s heart. But use these tips on how to talk to a girl to make the perfect impression.

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How to Stop Fighting Over Money in a Relationship

Find out how you can stop fighting over money in a relationship, and start saving money instead. Ask yourself these six questions that can help you change your lives for the better.

 

Sit down with your partner while reading this, or send this feature across to your partner so they too can understand these pointers.

If you’re already experiencing the symptoms of a money squabble, here are some thoughts that would definitely make a difference in your lives.

Six Questions to Help You Stop Fighting with your Partner

Q1. After you’ve purchased something, is it the purchase or your relationship that holds more value to you? 

In a happy relationship, both of you have an equal say, and any amount of money you earn does not enable you to enjoy more power in your relationship.

Nor does that mean you can buy what you want, whether your partner likes it or not.

Q2. Do you really need to buy that?

Whenever you want to buy something, ask yourself if you really need it, and can’t do without it. And then ask your partner about it, and rationalize.

If both of you are comfortable with the thought of making that purchase, go ahead. If not, read Q1 again!

Q3. Are you a spendthrift? 

Be truthful here, because lying will not help anyone. Do you love spending money because it makes you feel good, or better than the people around you? Have you done anything to deal with the issue?
If you’re a spendthrift then gradually cut down your expenses to a moderate level. But if you find that you still can’t come to terms with each other’s views, it would be better to reassess your relationship.

Q4. Do you get abusive when your partner points out your excessive purchases?

It is always easier to curse the darkness than to light a candle. It is easier to abuse than to try and listen. Start listening and do not yell. Stay calm and put forth your view on issues in a clear manner. No amount of anger will ease the situation.

Get involved in issues together and sort the differences, but don’t ever get repetitive on your partner’s flaws.

Q5. Have both of you set goals on your money and expenditure levels?

It is your goals that should guide your expense. Set realistic goals and pursue them together. This will reduce your arguments.

Q5. Have you started making changes? 

It might not be easy at first to reduce your expenses and stop fighting over money. But you will soon be able to sort out all your differences, and appreciate and respect each other’s opinions when it comes to making purchases. You could, of course, set aside a certain amount of money to spend on small luxuries now and then, as long as it’s feasible.

Q6. Are both of you participating equally in trying to stop fighting over money?

Equal participation is the key to a happy future. Whether it is in setting goals or for analyzing your budget, never burden your partner with too much responsibility or take all of it away from them. It is important for both of you to take decisions together and share the responsibilities.

Involve your partner in every decision and help them involve themselves. Make your partner feel wanted. Shunning one partner’s view on purchases and money management will only create a bigger rift between both of you.

It’s easy to point fingers and argue with your partner, but it really can be easier to stop fighting over money in a relationship and start saving money if both of you try to understand each other. 

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Happy Things You Need for a Perfectly Happy Life!

Wondering how to have a happy life? You don’t need too much to get that perfect life. All you need are just these 13 happy things, and nothing more!

 

A happy life is the dream, isn’t it?
That’s what all of us want.

We struggle and toil day in and day out, with the hope of abundant happiness in the future.

But what if I told you that a happy life is just right around the corner?

What if you could attain it as soon as you read this feature or within a few weeks?

It’s true, really.

Happiness is very subjective, because most of us truly have no idea what happiness is all about.

To many people, happiness is a richer life, to someone else, it’s true love, and to a few others, it’s three square meals a day.

Ever wondered why happiness means so many different things to so many people?
Well, that’s because most of us have no idea what real happiness is.

Happiness and the happy things that matter

If you’re wondering how to have a happy life, you just need to remember a few key details and work towards achieving it.

Many people spend a lifetime chasing behind the elusive happiness, and when they finally realize what it takes to be happy, they may be filled with nothing but regrets because they didn’t see happiness when they had the chance.

But then again, it’s never too late to feel the surge of blissful happiness fill within you, is it?

The happy energy within you

Happiness attracts happiness. Sadness draws sadness.

If you’re annoyed, scheming or miserable all the time, everything around you will feel the same way.

 You’ll draw people who are unhappy and everything around you will drain your happiness away.

As philosophical as this may sound, the energy that you give out is the energy you receive. If you’re positive in your outlook towards your personal world, your world will seem positive and full of happiness.

If you’re genuinely nice to the people around you, they’ll be nice to you in return. If you take people for granted or behave nicely to people only when you need them, the world will treat you the same way.

What defines your happiness?

Have you ever sat down by yourself and asked this question? How would you define happiness? What do you think you would need to feel happy? Don’t be impulsive and wish for something that you need right now. Think of the big picture. What is happiness to you?

Only when you have a clear definition of personal happiness would you ever be able to achieve it. Isolate money and the material world, and you’ll have your own definition of happiness.

13 happy things you need for a happy life

True happiness is easy to achieve if you have the happy things that matter in your life. If you’re confused about what happiness truly means to you, fret not, because it’s really simple. All you need are these 13 happy things.

Make a checklist of these 13 happy things, and tick them off when you feel like you’ve achieved them.

And for the first time in your life, you’ll know what it takes to truly feel happiness, inside and everywhere around you!

#1 A loving family/partner. Having someone to love you unconditionally and loving them back unconditionally in return plays a big part in your happiness. It gives more meaning to your life because you have someone to share every moment of your existence with.

As humans, we have an innate need to feel loved and desired. And just having someone to share your life with can give you a lot of happiness and fulfillment. After all, love does make everything in life more meaningful and special.

#2 A satisfying job. In our society, what you do at work defines you as a person. So do you like what you do? If the one trait that defines who you as a person doesn’t make you happy, can you ever achieve true happiness through that job?

Do you really like your job, or are you working only for the money it gives you? You spend a big part of your life working, so try to ensure that you love what you do to earn a living, and that’ll ensure that your life will be full of excitement and fun.

#3 A few good friends. You don’t need many friends to be happy. You just need a handful of friends that you can trust and spend time with. Can you count your true friends on your fingertips? In your pursuit of better things, don’t overlook true friendships. Having a few good friends to talk over the phone or spend an occasional evening with can make you feel more positive and happy.

And even if you’re in a perfect relationship with your lover, both of you need to spend time away from each other now and then to grow as individuals and retain your own lives.

#4 A hobby or a passion. One of the happy things that can give you a sense of achievement and personal satisfaction is your hobby. If you don’t have a hobby, get one, be it fixing a car or gardening or getting more informed about an interesting subject. A passionate hobby will give you more confidence and build your interest in things that are beyond your immediate needs.

#5 A good night’s sleep. A good night’s sleep is one of those overlooked things that can wreak havoc in your life, personal and professional. Sleep could seem overrated, but when you get less sleep, you’d be more sluggish and slow, and your mind would work slower than other days. And let’s not forget about how grumpy you’d feel all day.

Make sure you get at least seven to eight hours of sleep every day. You’ll wake up feeling fresh and excited to face the happy day ahead of you.

#6 An occasional adventure or vacation. Don’t ever let your life stagnate. Try at least one new thing every week or go to one new place you haven’t been to before every now and then. As hard as you slave away your life for a better future, your life will still feel the same unless you look for ways to keep your life exciting all the time.

Happiness never sprouts overnight. Start working towards happiness right now, or you’ll never have a happy life even when you reach your perceived milestones.

#7 A sustainable income. Money is not overrated. Without money, a lot of things you want to indulge in may be out of your reach. But at the same time, money isn’t everything too. Money is just worthless paper if all you do is let it accumulate in the bank.

The value of money is best experienced when you spend it now and then. Don’t idle your life, and ensure that you have a sustainable income at all times. Feeling rich is a state of mind. When you feel like you’re earning enough to have a happy life, your outlook towards life will start to get more positive and happier.

#8 Goals. Without a purpose or a goal, we’re just animals that exist with no purpose. As humans, we’re constantly looking for a purpose for everything, be it our origins or what happens after our end. But in between all that time, constantly create goals, small ones and big ones. And work towards it with dedication.

Each time you achieve a goal, you’ll feel a lot better about yourself and your life will feel more focused and adventurous.

#9 Exercise. As difficult as stretching your legs or getting your heart racing while doing a cardio workout may seem, a good workout can change you for the better within a few months.
Working out regularly fills your body with happy hormones and makes you feel good from the inside. And on the outside, you’d look a lot better and your clothes will look a lot sexier too. And most importantly, making the effort to work out regularly will give you a sense of accomplishment and increase your determination in life.

#10 Good food. Food is one of those happy things that can help you appreciate your life so much more. Cooking a meal together with a lover, sharing dinner with friends, or just checking a new restaurant out when you’re bored will always leave you with a new experience. And truth be told, some of the happiest conversations are shared over good food.

#11 Positive thoughts. Fill your mind with positivity, or you’ll just end up miserable and frustrated all the time. Don’t forget the bad lessons you’ve learned and the experiences you’ve had in your life, but don’t let them bother you all the time.

Comparisons and jealousy are negative thoughts that will always drag you down into the pits. Learn to look at the bright side all the time, and you’ll have a much happier approach towards life every single day.

#12 Pause. Look around. Appreciate. The world is a beautiful place. It doesn’t matter how busy you are or how late you are for work. Press the pause button on your hectic life and learn to appreciate the little happy things that catch your attention. It’s only when you appreciate the beauty all around you can you appreciate your life and fill your heart with limitless happiness.

#13 Memories. Your life is nothing but a collection of memories, don’t you forget that. In your pursuit of wanting happy things in the distant future, you may forget all about the happy things you have around you today.

Can you name ten amazing experiences you’ve had in the last year or two? If you can’t, you’ve been too caught up in planning your future that you’ve forgotten to enjoy your present. Learn to create happy memories all the time, with whatever you have in your life right now. If you get this wrong, you may attain your long term goals in life someday, but you may have no recollections of anything you’ve experienced along the way. Is that what you really want, a life that’s not worth remembering?

If you want to have a happy life, remember these 13 happy things all the time. You don’t always have to wait for the future to be happy. There are so many happy things in the world and so much happiness just waiting for you, if only you care enough to look.

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Magical Holidays in Kerala

Kerala, one of the fine holiday destinations in India, is known the world over for its therapeutic oils, exotic wildlife and awe inspiring sights. And Kannan Devan Hills is one of the best places where you can enjoy the beauty of Kerala, and immerse yourself in a quiet paradise in India.

 

Early next day, Somanna, a KDHP employee for several years and I, drove for over an hour to see a natural pool with fresh water trickling down the mountains.

The experience was magical and in some ways dramatic. The well secluded spring is accessible only by the guests of KDHP. The spot is ideal for bird watching and has a wonderful spring water pool, a luxury no five star hotel can provide.

Time flew past as I marveled at the wealth of outdoor opportunities that are available in and around the area. Somanna surprised me by saying that there was more to the place than meets the eye! He led me to his secret retreat uphill. A steep walk led us to a point where we could witness the waterfall cascading from a height of nearly 300 feet at the backdrop of the panoramic view of the magnificent hills. After a breathless walk, the only word that I could let out was a big wow!

My tour of the KDHP came to an end with my stay at Chokkanad. I reflected on my tour of the estate and was surprised to realize how many things I had managed to do in a short span of time and how refreshed I felt.

The estate is a retreat to nature lovers, romantic couples, golf enthusiasts, trekkers, serious anglers, poets, writers, film makers and so forth. Although vacationing here is by no means inexpensive, it is well worth the money.

With an increasing number of people losing their sanity over work pressures and suffocating lifestyles, a visit to KDHP estates works like a magic tonic. Although I found myself dragging my feet to return back to the real world, I felt a deep sense of calm and composure. It is unbelievable how being close to nature can rejuvenate your senses. I must admit that whoever thought of opening the doors of the tea estates to tourists must have been a genius. It truly is a sanctuary harboring a multitude of nature’s bounty.

To explore the vast expanses of this place, one needs to have a rugged means of transport. A jeep is the ideal mode of transport. It can be hired at Munnar which is a beautiful town by itself, or the management of the tea sanctuary can help you with the bookings/reservations for the vehicle.
Enroute to Munnar from Kochi, one can also visit the famous Kaladi Ashram, the birthplace of spiritual guru, Sri Shankracharya on the banks of the Periyar River.

How to reach Kannan Devan Hills

By Air 

Kochi is the nearest Airport and is well connected from all major cities in India.

Munnar is located at a distance of 75 miles from Kochi Airport. Prior arrangement can be made while booking the vacation for pickup and drop off facility to the airport from the management.

Chacko P Thomas / Abbas Khan

KDHP Co. Pvt.Ltd., Munnar – 685 616, Kerala

Phone: +91 4865 230561/65; Fax: +91 4865 230333

 Website: http://www.theteasanctuary.com

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The Romantic Kannan Devan Hills

Kannan Devan Hills, a quaint tea sanctuary in Kerala, India is a beautiful place that is the perfect getaway from the madness of the fast paced world we live in today.

 

Tea lovers are bound to be fascinated by the vast expanses of visually attractive tea estates.

Behind every sip of freshly brewed tea is the labor of love of hundreds of tea pickers who toil endlessly to bring the best varieties of Indian tea to their tea table. Kerala, a beautiful state in the southernmost tip of India, is world famous for its sprawling tea, pepper, cashew nut and rubber plantations.

A recent tourist attraction that has been much talked about amongst Kerala’s tea estates is the picturesque Kannan Devan Hills. Set in the rolling mountains of the Western Ghats, this piece of heaven is the perfect place for a romantic getaway from the madness of your daily, urban routine.

A conglomeration of scattered tea estates, the Kannan Devan Hills Plantation Company (KDHP) threw open its doors to tourists in the year 2005.

Collectively called the Tea Sanctuary, this unique property has excellent bungalow accommodation in estates surrounding the beautiful tea county of Munnar and provides an opportunity for tourists to explore the plantations at their leisure. A city dweller myself, I jumped at the prospect of vacationing at the quaint Tea Sanctuary of Kannan Devan hills.

The century old KDHP, in the high ranges of Kerala’s Idukki district, is South India’s largest tea company spanning an area of 55,000 square hectares. The bungalows associated with the estate are reminiscent of its colonial past.

 Once home to the British sahibs and their leisurely lifestyle that included hunting, angling, tennis and golf games, these bungalows provide classy accommodation with personal waiters, cooks, housekeepers, exquisite gardens and recreation areas, all vintage style.

It appears that these estates have turned out to be a popular honeymooner’s destination in the recent past. All accommodations are situated at driving distance from the city, Munnar with Parvathi and Sevenmallay being 5 miles from Munnar, Chokkanad (8 miles), Kanniamallay (7 miles), Yallapaty (41 miles) and Southaparai (45 miles).

My journey began with a short flight to Kochi and then a drive of nearly 100 miles in the dead of the night to Yallapaty. Thanks to the punctuality (or the lack of it) of low-priced airways, I was running 6 hours behind schedule. I was supposed to enjoy the drive during the daylight hour but ended up driving in the dead of the night.

The journey in the middle of the night didn’t offer anything exciting except for a roadside tea kiosk located at a major traffic intersection. When I finally reached the estate property, I settled down in a palatial room with a view of the plantations a few hours before dawn.

The next morning, Abbas, my host at the tea sanctuary, greeted me with a cigarette in one hand! Originally a Bangalorean, Abbas narrated my itinerary for the next three days. Invigorated by a fresh hot cup of tea, we drove towards Top Station and Kundaly golf club. The weather was just picture perfect until the time we approached the golf course. The south eastern monsoon broke down heavily on us. I was glued to the windshield in an attempt to take in as much of the scenic beauty of the surroundings as I possibly could.

The drive by itself was rather bumpy and it was hard to find a stretch of twenty yards without a pothole. In the end, it was well worth it as the drive led us to a gorgeous 9-hole golf course. The grass was not exactly well groomed but the place was a good location for a movie shoot. I had the rare opportunity to watch a heroine swaying to a tune amidst the downpour, a sight that people would have killed to witness in bigger cities.

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Romantic Adventures in Madeira

Madeira can be the perfect spot for a vacation with your lover, to indulge in a romantic getaways and the beautiful surroundings.

 

It was great to experience the romance of this island, and to top it off, that night we had our dinner under the stars, and listened to some great music being played by some of the locals.

The next morning we took a trip to the harbor of Funchal. The blend of the metropolis and the tranquility in this harbor was overwhelming.

This place also boasted of a wide variety of delicious seafood. And there were several boats on hire, on which we took a few rides around the island. I feel this is one of the best ways to discover most of the island, to experience the island from a different view, and to enjoy the cool peaceful breeze.
Friday morning.

 There’s always a big rush in the market hall of Funchal, because this is the official market day, and crowds of people come here. There is a luxuriant variety of exotic fruits and vegetables here, and you can’t help but stare wide-eyed, as you push ahead in the crowd, to try every single fruit available.

Anonas, papayas, Brazilian cherries, passion fruit… the variety is endless. Particularly exceptional is the “Madeira banana”, which is almost divine to taste. It is half the size of the small bananas but ten times as sweet! There are also several fish mongers, and florists who complete the perfect little market in Madeira.

The next day, we took a trip to the steep coast of Madeira. This was the second highest one in the world with a height of 560 meters! I can assure you the view down can be terrifying, but definitely exciting. Another perfect day, and I began to get quite tired, with all the walking and exploring. We decided to call it a day, actually it was well over three days, and we just lazed in the beauty of this island. It was romantic, doing nothing but indulging in the fine wine and the food.

This little island can almost turn a vacation into an adventure travel if one does not watch out for the signs! We took a west trip, and we were shocked to see the roads of Madeira from the bus. We were overlooking the cliff on one side, and the road was almost exactly the same width as that of the bus! One thing I can assure you, whoever has learnt driving here, would have no fear of either death or the devil. We also came across a small waterfall, or a cascade rather, that gushed down from above the road, and leapt into the sea below. It was like a getting a bus wash. This cascade was called the “The Bride Veil”, and it did look like a veil, pretty much did.

The whole ride was beautiful, and after the west well explored, we headed back to our hotel, and swam in our pool. Well, what can I say? At times I wondered if this island was a vacation or an adventure camp. But the place is so beautiful you would hardly notice the fitness regime amongst all the exotica in this island.

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A Vacation to Pristine Barbados

Barbados, a little island that’s known for its cricketing legends, also has a lot to offer for wonderful holidays and great vacations. With a strong culture and ethnicity that is attractive and inspiring, Barbados can be a great spot for a few perfect days under the sun.

The roads were narrow but empty, it was almost dawn and the weather was pleasant in the high 20’s.

My American Airlines flight from Miami was delayed by over three hours. From the window of my plane, I could see the wonderfully lit pear-shaped island of Barbados as the flight attendant announced that we would be landing in a few minutes.

My knowledge of Barbados was limited to the exuberance of Cricket and many historic stories of cricketing legends from the island. Who has not heard the name of the great all-rounder, Sir Garfield Sobers, the legendary opening pair of Haynes and Greenidge and not to forget the big bird, Joel Garner along with three W’s – Weeks, Worrel and Wesley!

However, I was keen to explore the little Barbados beyond the realms of cricket. A country of contrasting character with a diversity of food and culture, topography and landscapes, sports and adventure, Barbados has earned a reputation for being one of the most enchanting islands among all the Caribbean countries.

At the airport, I was greeted by my driver who was a cheerful young man with a thick accent. Lowering down the glass windows of my car, I sat next to my driver after exchanging courtesies.

I couldn’t understand much of the conversation that ensued between us (although it was in English) as he increased the volume of the Rap music, stepping on the accelerator simultaneously. When he pushed the gear to overdrive, I almost fell off my seat, trying my best to sit glued at a speed which would have put the Ferraris to shame.

Roundabouts and countryside single roads didn’t matter for my driver who was spinning the wheel just like Michael Schumacher would do on a Formula One racetrack. After 45 minutes of rollercoaster driving, I settled in the comforts of a cottage facing the Caribbean Ocean on the west coast of Barbados. It was a full moon night, the sparkling stars filled the sky and the noise of the ocean was soothing and tranquil. It was only a few hours from my first sunrise in the Caribbean Islands.

In the three days of my stay at this island which is only 21 miles long and 14 miles wide, I was curious to explore this little jewel off the Caribbean and the Atlantic Oceans. Acquiring independence from the British colonial rule in 1966, Barbados, the ‘Little England’ of the Caribbean is today a perfect blend of the colonial world and modern times. Retaining its old world culture and architecture of the 17^th and 18^th century, the island is studded with wonderful churches, botanical gardens and old plantation houses apart from its incredible beaches.

Next morning, I woke up to the melodious chirping of birds and a breathtaking view of a beautiful sunrise. Within no time, I found myself walking on the beach, yet not testing the warm waters. A quiet walk in the early morning along the beach near the Almond Resort on the West Coast was quite an enchanting experience. I took in the first impression of Barbados in the morning, a pristine island with the turquoise blue waters at a stone’s throw, a quiet beach with no litter, white sands, calm serene waters, swaying palm trees, an occasional sailing boat, and an odd early sunbather lying on the beach at the crack of dawn.